When did parenting become about the child dictating what the parent should do.? I’ve had several encounters lately that make me disillusioned about today’s parents.
First of all, I would like for parents to hear me when I say that children are not trophies for you to show off and they do not come into the world knowing how to do things. ” Put on your coat!”, “Hurry up!” Have you ever stopped to think about what you are saying to these little people? That’s what they are! They are little people. Think about what you are saying and the child’s perception. They have feelings.
“Clean up your room!” What does that mean? Show them. Make it fun. Make it a game. Sing a song!
“YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH CHILDREN ARE LITERALLY SHAPING THEIR BRAINS” (excerpt from the book “Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline “) Positively or Negatively. Brain development is paramount in the first 3 years of life.
Teach your very young child how to put on his/ her coat. Put the tag to your toes on the floor. Put your arms in the holes and flip it over your head. Yea! You did it. Look at you. You put your coat on all by yourself.
If you do not make connections with your children, you cannot elicit their cooperation. How do you make connections? Love rituals. Spending time with them. Talking with them not at them. Noticing the positive . Encouragement.
Children are a blessing from the Lord!
Before you know it that childhood time has passed and you can’t get it back. Then you have teenagers….that’s a whole other blog.