This is a copy of a post I made yesterday on our school facebook page
“What’s more important….That little rectangular device you have pressed to your ear or hearing about your child’s day when you pick them up? Your child’s perception is that the phone is more important than them. Please…put down the phone and make a connection!”
I see this happen everywhere. Not only at my school where we have infants- 4 year olds but everywhere. The grocery store, around town, even at church. All ages. Where are parents’ priorities? You can drop a cell phone and break it and get a new one, you can miss a call and call someone back. You can even hear a notification for a text or Facebook and you don’t have to look at it immediately. Imagine that! What you can’t return, get back or fix…That moment in time with your child. Preschooler or teenager.
It breaks my heart to hear a child walking behind a parent going down the hall at pickup time just a talkin’ about their day followed by “momma, Momma, MOMMA!” and Momma isn’t paying any attention to that child when he/she has been away from their Momma for 8-10 hours of the day and sometimes longer.
I know parents have to work. (And I am glad they do or I would be out of a job). I know it is stressful to work all day and then have to pick up children, cook dinner, do bath and bedtime and the list goes on. But, when you are say 50+ years old and your children are grown or teenagers at least, what will they be like? Will they remember Momma on the phone and fussing at them to be quiet, Daddy at work all the time, never home to play ball or watch a game together. Or will they remember how Momma and Daddy took the time to listen and love on that child, or read a book with them, or play a game with them, laugh with them, encourage them, teach them a life skill?
When you do these things, you are creating a connection with your child and developing his/her brain. When children feel loved and safe emotionally and physically, they learn better in school and have a healthier life.
For all you older parents out there, you know how fast children grow up. One day they start preschool and the next, they are off to college it seems. So from one older parent to all parents reading this. My advice to you is take time to finish your phone call before it is time to be with your child. They are more important than any device you have going. This is an investment in your future and theirs.